I gave this class recently on how to become more balanced (if you are strong power, or strong attractive) as a leadership style. Someone asked a great question: “How do you deal with strong power people?”
So some lessons learned in this space: Continue reading
First, let me say I love my parents.
The Korean culture is one of pride, perfection, and focus on outward achievements. There is a reason Korea is the number one country for plastic surgery. This makes for an interesting upbringing. Continue reading
I consider myself really fortunate to have people in my life who are amazing mentors and role models. I just met with one who had recently retired from a very senior job, her choice. As we were talking about the transition, she said something to me that struck me:
“What was in the background now comes into the foreground.” Continue reading
I’ve had lots of different roles in my career. And I can pretty much vouch that I’ve always tried to talk the hiring manager out of hiring me.
Like many, I felt that if there was any part of the job that I didn’t know, I was unqualified.
The fact is that if the job’s a stretch, there’s probably at least 40-45% of the role which will be completely new. And that will feel terrifying and seem like grounds for disqualification.
Here’s the thing: you’ll learn the things you don’t know…which is the whole point of taking the next opportunity. It’s ok to feel terrified at a certain level. But don’t rationalize it as an excuse so you don’t make the leap.
Every time someone has spoken to me about the terrifying new job they’ve been presented? I almost always tell them: “Come see me in a month, I think you’ll be great at it”. And that’s pretty much what happens.
It’s really simple.
“Be a good person.”
I used to have resolutions like eat better, exercise more, spend more time with friends and family. Those aren’t resolutions: it’s really the to-do list.
While many of us think of ourselves as good people, I think it’s important that you actively demonstrate that you are a good person. It’s not a passive description of who I am, I want it to be the goal every day and the lens I use when I look back at the day’s events and the standard I hold myself to in the future.
I’ll let you know how it works out.
Here’s my list of what I learned in 2015, in no particular order…. Continue reading