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13. Be brave. Stand up for your position.

It’s easy to avoid antagonism, arguments, aggressive people. It’s much easier to conform and be politically correct. But if you want to learn, lead, and innovate, you have to be brave.

Being brave is always about two things: 1) speaking up and 2) taking the unpopular, but what you believe to be right position.

This is an interesting article by Peter Thiel, who co-founded PayPal, among other achievements. He talks about how great companies succeed, not by competing with each other, but by being so good at what they do, no one can provide a substitute.  I think this is also how people succeed: not because they compete with each other, but because they are great at what they do, and because not many others do the work necessary to come close.

He also talks about the problem of conformity “We never really push the envelope; we never really ask the tough questions.”  I love the last line of his article:  “And remember, we live in a world in which courage is in far shorter supply than genius.”

So don’t let the moment pass by being silent. Speak up. Be brave.

Men I Admire: Derek Jeter

 

Confession, I know nothing about baseball. But even I can’t ignore Derek Jeter, the captain of the New York Yankees. He announced that he will retire next year, which is probably the biggest thing to happen in baseball in years.

I won’t go through all his achievements in baseball. He doesn’t have the best numbers. But as captain of the Yankees, he clearly knows a thing or two about leadership. He is universally respected and admired…even by the opposing teams. He is a quiet leader who leads by example. No scandals, no embarrassing publicity, no regretted tweets.  Ever.

One of the quotes from him that I love is the following:

“You can’t be afraid of failing. You have confidence if you’ve had success in the past. I’ve done it before, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to be successful again.”

Often people avoid the tough situations because they are afraid of failing or making a mistake. But you also don’t learn anything new.  If you have lots of different experiences and take the tough assignments, you will learn what it takes to be successful. And while it’s no guarantee of future success, it does build your confidence so that you can handle the new challenges that get thrown at you. Confidence doesn’t mean arrogance. Confidence is believing that what you’re doing will get you to the right outcome.  If you don’t believe, why should anyone follow you…and isn’t that what leadership is?

Thank you Derek Jeter, for someone everyone can look up to. Check here for his last game at Yankee stadium. Unbelievable.

 

Women I love – Dr Christina Yang

For those of you who watch Grey’s Anatomy, you know who I mean.

Christina Yang is a character played by Sandra Oh: a cardiothoracic surgeon at the hospital. Meredith Grey is her best friend: another top surgeon. They have rituals: “dancing it out”, being “each other’s person”, and not going to that “dark and twisty place”. Two women passionate about professional excellence and their friendship.

Doctor Yang  is competitive, ambitious, intelligent, and at the same time, brutally honest, insensitive, aggressive and tactless.  While I’m not recommending that all her manager behaviors be emulated (how she handles the new residents…and how they love it), she is inspiring because she is who she is and is unapologetic about it.  How refreshing is that?

This past May, Dr Yang left Grey’s Anatomy.  Thank you Sandra Oh for giving us a female Asian television character as authentic and brave as Dr Yang.

 

 

 

2. Say thank you.

My first summer job when I was in business school was working for a consulting practice at a big accounting firm. My first day, I was nervous and as I entered my newly furnished office that I was sharing with another intern, I spilled my entire grande cup of coffee on the pristine beige rug. I was sure I was going to be fired. Or known as the intern who spilled the coffee.

My boss came by, introduced himself, took a look and laughed…”Boy, that’s a rough start!”. He called someone to make arrangements to clean it up and couldn’t have been nicer. I knew he was going to be someone I learned a lot from.

What I learned from him wasn’t subject matter. Not that he wasn’t brilliant: he was ex-McKinsey, had lots of degrees. There are a lot of people like that. But he was also an example of someone who was kind and really good at his job. Respected as a partner. Liked by everyone. Even the janitor.

Every night, he’d poke his head in before he left (as the lowest people on the food chain, we would be working late). He’d always say “Thanks a lot for your help today.” Every day. To interns.

I try to remember this at work. Saying thank you, sending an email, ordering pizza….all of it goes a long way to affecting people’s day to day. In general, work is hard, frustrating, infuriating, and exhausting. It can also be rewarding, inspiring, and satisfying. But when you work in an environment where you feel appreciated, and you’re thanked, it refuels you for the next day.

So say thank you.