Sometimes there’s a disconnect between what you think you do well, and what your boss thinks you do well.

Usually, it’s about consistency.

I’ve had lots of conversations with people on whether or not they are a team player, good manager, good communicator. Here’s the thing:

Inconsistency is what stops you from earning the label. If you’re a team player on some projects, but not on others, people won’t see you as a team player because you’re inconsistent.

So next time you get feedback that surprises you, ask yourself 3 questions:

1. “How consistent am I in doing x? Do I do it all the time?”

2. “When is the last time I exhibited this behavior?”

3. “And the last time I didn’t?”

You’ll find that if you concentrate on doing it all the time, you’ll change perception over time.