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Lately, it seems I’ve been talking to more people who are really frustrated at work…a mix of being on projects that are going nowhere, lack of accountability for missed dates or incompetence, fatigue at “flat is the new up” as a way to justify no increases in years of clear inflation. So, some lessons learned on the age old question we all face during our career: “should I stay or should I go?”<\/p>\n

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A couple of things:<\/p>\n

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  1. You<\/strong>. Is it a good time for you to enter the market, given your age, expertise, background, and skill sets?\u00a0 This is when you have to be brutally honest…we all think we have value. That’s the wrong question. Will someone else feel the same? Will they pay you?\u00a0 Will they value as much as you’re valued now?<\/li>\n
  2. Why are you leaving?<\/strong>\n
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    1. Role:<\/strong> I’ve moved companies 4 times. But at each company, I’ve had different roles.\u00a0 Do you want to leave the role or the company? I found the company was usually good, I just got bored\/frustrated in my role.\u00a0 Finding a new role was much better than changing firms all together. All that knowledge, networks, good will follows you to the next stint.<\/li>\n
    2. You hate your job, and can’t change roles<\/strong>.\u00a0 Why do you hate your job? Is it your boss? Is it the culture?\u00a0 Did something change recently with you or the firm? What is driving you crazy?\u00a0 Does it ebb and flow, or is it all pervasive?\n
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      1. If it’s your boss: figure out how to handle your reactions….don’t bother trying to change his\/her\/their behavior.\u00a0 If it’s someone you don’t respect, who is doing BAD things…find something else.<\/li>\n
      2. If it’s the culture: some industries have unique cultures. They can be sales oriented, focused on bleeding edge, be lenient on due dates, less focused on process. Make sure you understand whether or not the culture is unique, or if that’s the nature of the beast. Is it the industry that drives you crazy? Can you switch industries and still provide value you will be paid for?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
      3. Can you afford to leave?<\/strong>\n
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        1. If the worst happens and it doesn’t work out, can you afford to be out of work and looking under pressure?<\/li>\n
        2. Do you leave money on the table…e.g. unvested options?\u00a0 Is it still worth it?<\/li>\n
        3. If the new company as established as your existing one?\u00a0 Lots of start-ups fail….it sounds great till you realize that they only have enough operating cash for 4 months.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Whenever you “hate” your job, the people who care about you will often tell you to leave, find something else, life is too short. All true.\u00a0 They believe in you and care about you. BUT…<\/p>\n

          But I have found in my career that as you progress, the risk goes up with a move.\u00a0 We all have expiration dates.\u00a0 The key is to try and be as objective as possible, and to make sure if you do move…you move for the right reason, to the right place, with the right financial circumstances.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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