I once went to this amazing leadership course where we did this one exercise where we were told to shout negative things to a person standing with their arms out: “You’re dumb!”, “You can’t do anything right!”, “You can’t win!” \u00a0The instructor went over to him and pushed his arms down easily.<\/p>\n
We then shouted positive things to the person: “You’re great!”, “You’re the best!”, “You can do anything!”, and when the instructor tried to push his arms down, he couldn’t.\u00a0The person\u00a0was able to resist. Seriously.<\/p>\n
So here are some things to say to yourself depending on the circumstance:A. When you are interviewing for a new job:<\/p>\n
In your head<\/em>: “I am an amazing player. I have skills, experience and a track record. I can play any position.”<\/p>\n The listener’s reaction: “I want\u00a0you on\u00a0my team.”<\/p>\n B. When you\u00a0have a big presentation:<\/p>\n In your head<\/em>: “I know this better than anyone in the room. I got this. It’s going to be a great conversation.”<\/p>\n The listener’s reaction: “You believe in this work.”<\/p>\n C. When you’re dealing with someone you think doesn’t like you:<\/p>\n In your head<\/em>: “I know this person is a good person. We can reach common ground. It’s not personal.”<\/p>\n The listener’s reaction: “You want to help me.”<\/p>\n No negative thoughts. No reason to weaken your own arms.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I once went to this amazing leadership course where we did this one exercise where we were told to shout negative things to a person standing with their arms out: “You’re dumb!”, “You can’t do anything right!”, “You can’t win!” \u00a0The instructor went over to him and pushed his arms down easily. We then shouted […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2105,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[34],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2102","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-making-life-easier"],"yoast_head":"\n