I got this\u00a0lesson from the book, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie.\u00a0 It is something I try to remember.<\/p>\n
Most of us are trained to think about every possible outcome and every scenario in order to come up with the best approach to tackle a problem. While that kind of \u201cworst case scenario thinking\u201d can be helpful, it can also become overwhelming. Couple that training with the desire to not make a mistake and to always be right, (who wants to make mistakes and be wrong?), you have a perfect set up to constantly worry.<\/p>\n
Worrying is thinking that the worst might<\/em> happen<\/strong>. For some people, it\u2019s a fleeting thought. For others, it becomes a nagging preoccupation that takes energy and time.<\/p>\n I used to worry a lot. About everything. It was as if my mind was constantly scanning the situation and picking up on every possible thing which was not perfect and my fault. If someone didn\u2019t like me, I felt bad about it. If a presentation wasn\u2019t perfect, I beat myself up about it. If a project was delayed, I felt I had blown it. I\u00a0woke up in the middle of the night. I would be\u00a0cranky. \u00a0No boss was ever as hard on me as I was on myself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n So, at some point in your life, you come to the realization that it\u2019s not productive because\u00a0what you\u2019re worried about is unlikely to happen. When I feel overwhelmed, I force myself to write down what I am worried about, the actual facts and most likely outcomes.<\/strong> Not what I feel. And when you are forced to deal with that set of data instead of your feelings, your rational side starts winning.<\/p>\n Looking back now, of all the things I worried about, I can\u2019t remember one thing that actually mattered.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I got this\u00a0lesson from the book, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie.\u00a0 It is something I try to remember. Most of us are trained to think about every possible outcome and every scenario in order to come up with the best approach to tackle a problem. While that kind of \u201cworst […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":119,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[5],"tags":[18],"class_list":["post-117","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-perform-better","tag-mindset"],"yoast_head":"\n